Avoiding Divorce

 Today, married couples often have schedules that are hectic and chaotic. Many people feel that the day needs an extra ten or twelve hours to squeeze in everything on their to-do list. Whether you are working, keeping the house in shape, driving the kid’s sports event, or cooking dinner, it is hard to find time for your marriage.

An eight-hour day at work followed by supper and checking homework is enough to have any person feeling worn out and ready to hit the hay. If you already have trouble brewing in your marriage, the stress of these everyday activities seems to multiply exponentially. Is there a way to find time for your marriage itself?

Yes, you and your partner can find time to help your marriage. Finding some time in your day for your marriage may not be easy, but it can be done. Husbands and wives must make their marriage a priority in their daily schedule if they want it to remain happy.

When a marriage is in trouble

When a marriage is in trouble, the stress and worries about family life can impact on all other aspects of your life. Doing things together within your marriage will not only ensure the success of your marriage, but also help to ease the other stressors in your lives.

Whether you need time out on a date, couple time to chat, or a weekly visit to a couple’s therapist, your schedule can allow this with just a few tweaks and changes. Start by talking to your spouse about what is causing you the biggest concern in your marriage. Decide what you two can accomplish together to come up with a solution to it.

Compare your schedule with the schedule of your mate. See what days and times may work for the both of you. Allow for leisure activities with the children and see what time is left. If the children’s activities and your busy schedules conflict, it may be time to eliminate something from the schedules.

Simplifying everyone’s schedule can make things less hectic and stressful for the entire family. This step alone may be all that you need, but don’t stop there. Find a sitter for the children and make the time you need for you as a couple. If your spouse and you just need time together to talk and enjoy each other, make time for a date or short vacation.

Dealing with financial problems

Maybe your marriage needs help with financial problems. Sit down together and make a budget or, if even see a financial advisor.

Do you and your partner have issues to work through with therapy?

There may be a therapist available in your local area that can meet you in the evening or on the weekends. If you are religious then you can schedule a meeting with a clergy member from your church. Their schedules may be more flexible than a traditional therapist offering marriage help. Frequently, pastors and other religious leaders have been taught to provide marriage help and family counseling.

Regardless of what type of marriage advice you and your partner decide to try, you must find the time because your marriage is counting on it. With just a little extra effort you will find enough time for the kind of marriage you need and deserve.